10 Rules for a Kick-Ass Life

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Practice regret minimization

Always make decisions in a fashion that minimizes future regret. You don’t want to be on your death bed wishing you had taken that trip or talked to that cute girl. Most things won’t matter in the end and all you’ll have to look back on are the things you experienced. The times you placed small bets and won. Be a gambler. Regret nothing.

Consistently build identity capital

Personal assets like skills, talents, stories, and experiences are valuable. Pick careers based on how interesting they are versus how much they pay. Travel the world and seek adventure. Drink with the locals, get your heart broken, swim in the sea, join a revolution, and publish stuff online. Learn to tell great stories.

Always cultivate luck

Luck is a function of surface area. It is the reward for hard work. Do things that increase your luck potential like helping others, showcasing your skills, and working hard. Get out of the house instead of staying home and always talk to strangers. Change up your routine. Put yourself out there. Reply to every email.

Embrace nimble living

Live light and agile. Don’t own too much stuff and don’t get bloated with debt. Stay fit and keep your expenses low. Practice minimalism and always be ready for an impromptu trip. Never spend a night in the same city.

Remain a student of life

Lifelong learning is at the core of a life well-lived. Never stop learning and always explore your curiosity. Meet new people, read new books, read old books, try new things, pick up new skills, and fail a lot. Google stuff.

Be certain of nothing

You have likely experienced less than 1 percent of the world and so have I. A personal operating system of being unsure will serve you throughout your life. Don’t make assumptions and keep your opinions close to the vest. Keep an open mind.

Consistently reinvent yourself

You should be a different person than the human you were 1–5 years ago. You should be wiser, kinder, and more thoughtful. You should have new skills and experiences. New friends, and new stories. You should look back on the person you were and be able to see how much you have grown. Become unrecognizable to others.

Never lie

Don't lie to yourself and don’t lie to others. Be the person that tells it how it is. The world needs more of this. Stop believing your own bullshit because no one else does. Examine your life frequently looking for hidden lies you are telling yourself. If those pants make her butt look big — tell her.

Always be yourself

There are people who aren’t going to like you for one reason or another. That doesn’t mean you should change. Be true to yourself and live your life accordingly. Don’t sacrifice your values and always follow your inner compass. Live on your own terms. Don’t be a dick.

Value your time

Time is the highest form of currency. The most precious resource we have. Your time should be sacred. Don’t let people waste your time with nonsense and drama. Don’t let them waste it period. Make decisions quickly and be mindful of your days. Stick to your mission and execute with speed. Be in a hurry to live life.

Bonus rule

Don’t follow rules

Never follow someone else's rules. Life is a game and you get to make the rules as you go. Ignore society, your friends, your parents, me, and everyone else. You do you. Life is short and there’s no worse fate than wasting it by living some other person's idea of what a proper life should look like. You are free to do anything you want. Embrace your inner weirdo.

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